What is your Currency?

What is your Currency?

People from all walks of life come to me with the same call for help: “help me find my motivation...or help my child be more motivated” etc.
The truth is that motivation comes at a certain amount of being inspired - Inspira-tion comes from having an idea of what would be desirable and Motivation comes from the unconscious mind saying yes to it.
Now the inspiration part comes easily to us, the motivation part needs to be “paid of”. The payment that works for each of us is different, we all have different cur-rency to pay our unconscious guard that stands in the front of the room with the motivator inside.
In my experience once a person finds his or her currency and starts to pay off the guard, motivation is freely available.
Some people who read this have a reaction to the words written above...it looks like bribery to them...especially if I open this concept to them to work with their children or a partner...what they don't understand is the way our brain works...its not the carrot and the stick theory, but real understanding of how the brain of the child, the partner, or oneself learns.

Lets see if you have been trying to motivate your partner to empty the dishwasher as part of his duties in the partnership, and he or she is not “remembering from one day to another”, you know one thing for sure - you don't know the currency of your partner.
Once the unconscious is motivated, there is never a question of action, if there is no motivation, the action is inconsistent, is depended on pleading, arguing, beating oneself up and other extremely tiring ways of trying to control the environment.
The currency that will pay the guard is as different as there are people in this world, we are all unique and only what our motivator knows will work for us. So what do you think what your currency is?
Is it space, time for a good book, painting, coffee, work, no work, singing, shouting, time with friends, time with dad or mom or child ...., walks, your dog or cat...jewelry, alcohol, yoga....
so your partner asks you to accept emptying the dishwasher as part of your “share” and you are really not motivated” (or interested in or care about....) - your question here is what is your currency to “pay” yourself for the effort to do your part in the relationship...
So instead of asking how can I get motivated, ask yourself what is my currency and am I paying myself or my parter or my child ...or my employee....with the right amount?...well if inspiration leads to motivation chances are that you ARE.
If you have any issues with procrastination, non motivation and other issues along this line, have a session with Margit.